What I Love & Hate About Social Media

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I enjoy the social media world. It can be fun, interesting, informative, funny & inspiring. It can also be scary, sad, discouraging and leave you feeling bad about yourself. People can catch up with old friends or make new ones. They share triumphs & disasters. Some even use it as a soap box for political views and other beliefs.

I can still remember when Facebook first came out. I am certain that I did not sleep for about a week as I was navigating through it’s pages, stalking old class mates, throwing virtual sheep at my friends and playing Mafia Wars. It was a guilty addiction. How did I ever live without knowing that Johnny Smith had a great workout today or that Mary Johnson was stuck in traffic? Not that I should poke fun. As a blogger my life is an open book.

We share so much with friends, family, acquaintances and even perfect strangers on these sites. We post pictures and updates on our lives and anxiously await comments & likes from our followers as if it adds value to our self worth if we receive a large number of likes.


I have secretly been a little bit wounded if nobody acknowledged something that I found to be particularly witty or clever. Why didn’t anybody like this? It was pure genius.

In the mean time my news feed is filled with selfies of girls doing kissy faces, followed by people complaining about selfies of girls doing kissy faces; pictures of happy families, followed by someone calling this family fake. There is name calling, public arguments and people critiquing your grammar. (Sorry guys, I know mine isn’t perfect.) There are status updates from the same people every half hour, chronicling everything from what they ate for breakfast to their first bowel movements. There are debates about everything including gun control to the existence of God. I myself, am the annoying mommy that posts too many photos of her cute kid. Guess what? I don’t even care. Many people that we are so called “friends with” we don’t even like. Here is the funny thing. The people that we follow on the sites, we choose to follow. We have made a choice to let them into our personal lives and in turn we get to be a guest in their’s as well.

The world looks different through another person’s eyes. It is fun to live life vicariously through others. Before, I had my daughter, I used to enjoy looking at all the happy families & wondering what it would be like to be a parent. Now, I see people’s travels and remember the days of trekking around the world.

It is a great way to stay in touch or reconnect with old or far away friends. I have two very close friends that live out of country. It costs a fortune to call each other. Here I can keep up with their lives, see their new homes & celebrate their new jobs & other triumphs.

All of these outlets are meant to be fun. Enjoy the benefits & just laugh off the rest & if that doesn’t work remember there is always the unfriend button.






  1. All social networks come with good and bad and think you said this quite perfectly here. I will say that I have had my moments of loving and then hating them all at one point or another. So, yes can truly relate!!

  2. Agree completely, social media is a wonderful thing when used correctly – which can sometimes be difficult. We are only human with all the human faults, regardless of our good intentions. You may enjoy a short piece I wrote, Technology Orphans (http://yhoo.it/1lRcWG6), which comments on this obsession’s effect on our children.

    1. Great article. I was starting to find myself very guilty of this when I started blogging. I made a rule for myself, no computer until my daughter is asleep. Occasionally, I will still break it, but not often and only for a few moments. I have tried getting in the habit of putting my phone on it’s charger when I get home, so I won’t be tempted. Unfortunately, between work and miss Mai , it is sometimes the only way to keep in touch with my friends and outside world, so I do still cheat from time to time, but when my daughter asks to play, it gets put away. I wanted to comment on your post , but couldn’t find a comment section.

  3. Loved this post! I can relate to it so well. There was a time where I quit Facebook for a couple of months completely, removing my account. I felt so free. And then I missed it so much but stuck to my decision. Finally, I started a new account because that was the way that Mother’s Group (initially organised by the Maternal Child Health Centre) chose to communicate. I came to the conclusion that you did – as long as it is managed well and not taken too seriously, social media can be a really positive thing. Like you, I have decided to make sure I wait till my son isn’t around before I spend lengthy times online (I do a quick check in now and then if I’m in the kitchen or our of the room, using my phone). At the end of the day, I need to preserve the relationships that I see face to face, but with the increasing isolation of our fast-paced world, it does help meeting a diversity of people online, it can help to know there is always someone there to talk to, at any hour of the day (or night) :).

      1. You’re welcome- I always have plenty of thoughts ;). It is such an important topic that you addressed and one which I hope, will generate much thought and future discussion. Have a lovely weekend too! The sun is shining here in Melbourne and we had a beautiful time celebrating an early Mother’s Day with my mother-in-law and family yesterday.

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